Most couples at one point or another deal with jealousy to some degree. It is a common occurrence in many relationships. Jealousy, also known as the green-eyed monster, can create a rift in a relationship, causing distrust and hurt feelings. Most women expect their man to be at least a little jealous from time to time. However, some women have the unfortunate luck to fall in love with a guy who has severe jealousy issues. So how can you tell the difference between a guy who can be occasionally jealous from a guy who is paranoidly so? Here are some signs that your guy may be a victim of the green-eyed monster.
He keeps tabs on you
It is quite natural to ask your partner where they are going and when they might be home. You want to know what they do when they are not with you. But if your guy calls you fifteen times a day to ask where you are and who you are with, that is not a good sign. Men with out-of-control jealousy issues want to know exactly where you were at what time of day. They want to know not just who you were with but what you said. He may even accuse you of talking about him. This is a controlling behavior and can make you feel like you are under house arrest with an ankle monitor.
He is never wrong
Men who wrestle with jealousy can have very aggressive personalities and have trouble admitting when they are wrong. "A jealous person gives the impression of being a very self-confident person," explains Paul A. Hauck, clinical psychologist and author of Overcoming Jealousy and Possessiveness
, but it really stems from a low self-esteem and overwhelming insecurity.
You can't have friends
Men with jealousy issues want to control not just where you go and when, they want to control who you talk to. They feel the need to dictate who you can see. Any friends and family that they do not like are immediately scratched off the list. Guy friends are always the first to go because they cannot stand the idea of you speaking to another guy. It's called "suspicious jealousy", one which is not based on what you did or may have done, but rather is based on imagined threats. It is an ongoing cycle and if a woman is not careful, she will soon find that she can't have any friends at all and may even be ordered not to see her family.