You've made new resolutions to eat healthier, exercise more and better manage your finances. So how about romantic love habits to keep for the new year? Hear it from the relationship experts as they dish out words of wisdom on love and how to recharge your relationship with a whole new level of passion.
1. Do something romantic everyday
"There is no limit to how much your love can deepen when you make a point to do something romantic every day of the year," says Mara Goodman-Davies, a relationship coach and author of A Year of Romance.
It can be as simple as saying "I love you", getting your guy a gift just because, or even putting away the laundry when it isn't your turn because he's super busy. It's little acts of love like these that sets the foundation of romance in your everyday life.
2. Don't sweat the small stuff
"Most of the things you fight about don't matter a lot," says Sam R. Hamburg, Ph.D., a marital therapist and author of Will Our Love Last?
Find yourself fighting over which TV channel to watch or who should do the dishes? Just toss the coin. Of course, serious conflicts should be handled in a more serious manner, but for the trivial stuff, don't look at them with a magnifying glass.
3. Give sincere compliments
"Compliments are the verbal nourishment of the soul," says Daphne Rose Kingma, author of True Love.
Lavishing your loved one with praises not only boosts his self-esteem, it also reminds you why you fell in love with this special guy. In a way, it's a reflection of your own special qualities. "You would not be in the arms of this incredible person if there weren't something very special about you," Kingma points out.
4. If you want something, just tell him
"Love does a great many magical things, but it doesn't turn us into psychic wizards," says Kingma. If you want that emerald pendant for your 30th birthday, tell him that, or you may end up getting a silver ware set. Let him know you'd like to try out the posh French restaurant, or else he might just bring you to the diner you hate. Not because he doesn't love you, but because your guy doesn't have ESP. Many women think that having to tell their partner what they want seems unromantic, but remember, it's his desire to make you happy that makes it so special.
5. Touch, touch, touch
"Touch isn't optional for a good relationship, it's essential," says Al Link, a relationship coach and co-author of Sensual Love Secrets for Couples.
When you give and receive loving, sensual touch, feel-good chemicals endorphins and oxytocin surge through your system to produce feelings of love and happiness. Men love to be touched in nonsexual ways as well, adds Link. "With a tender hug or gentle pat, you can give comfort and acceptance and create a strong, loving bond that goes beyond the physical."